I was reading over at WebMD today and stumbled across this article about caregiving. I noticed it specifically because it mentioned burnout in the article title. As a blogger who used to work a full time job, has a family and kids, I can completely understand burnout.
For me, burnout comes at the absolute worst time – when I’m doing well. When I’m working a lot more than I should apparently, when I have too many plates spinning up top, that’s when burnout strikes and everything comes tumbling down. So it seems does this happen in the caregiving relationship. Reading on in the article though, I can understand why this would happen to a caregiver, even more so than a full time blogger 🙂
In the caregiver relationship there is a certain lack of control there. The one being cared for, there’s no telling what will happen to them, that’s why they’re being cared for in the first place. So as the caregiver, there can be overwhelming feelings of (quoting the article here:)
- Role confusion
- Unrealistic expectations
- Lack of control
- Unreasonable demands
- And other factors
Personally, I’ve witnessed caregiving relationships and while I never really thought about burnout in those situations, I can attest to all the above feelings. I wasn’t even the one giving care and I felt many of the above feelings as well as exhaustion from what both people had to endure.
Just as with any other burnout situation there are ways to combat the feelings that cause burnout, ways to keep make the situation better and continue caring where it is needed, the first of which is to recognize the situation. Recognizing the feelings of burnout, the feelings that lead up to burnout, can help you address the situation before it becomes a real problem.
Some other suggestions from the article include finding someone you trust that you can talk to about the feelings you are having; a friend or coworker familiar with the situation or even a therapist if you think that’s necessary.
One of the best things I picked up from the article about preventing burnout and not just that of a caregiver relationship but really of any situation is to be realistic. Specific to caregiving, “be realistic about your loved one’s disease.” That can help far more than some of the other tips in the article and in the relationship I was a witness to, that’s exactly what helped their relationship endure.
I found some great information on Genworth.com about long term care insurance that could help as well before a situation gets bad.
Article publié pour la première fois le 19/02/2013